Bob has no interest in counseling because he has no interest in being a better father. These things can be interpreted as forms of abuse. Any advice? - Sinking Ship in PennsylvaniaĭEAR PENNSYLVANIA: Bob withholds funds for the support of his family and either neglects or yells at his son.
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He refuses counseling, saying he doesn’t need anyone to tell him how to raise his kid. I tell him it is the parents’ responsibility to make time for their children, not the other way around. If anything goes wrong, Bob blames Jack and ends up hollering at him for ridiculous things like forgetting to turn off a light or not wanting to go to the store with him, and then lays a guilt trip on the boy, saying, “Don’t you want to spend time with me?”
I also don’t like to leave Jack alone with his father. He even tries to get out of paying for groceries and babysitters. He makes nearly twice my salary, but won’t give me a dime toward Jack’s clothes, shoes or school supplies, let alone birthday presents, although he wants his name on the gifts. Bob accepts no responsibility for his son. When he was little and asked where Daddy was, I covered for Bob, but now that Jack is older, he knows what’s what. Jack is now 8 and has no real relationship with his father and no desire for one. Bob found excuses not to be home, worked all kinds of overtime or had to “go somewhere.” I can count on one hand the times he did anything with Jack or was even home on a weekend during our son’s first five years. Once we had our son, “Jack,” everything changed. Even though he didn't have the money to pay, he had the skill set to get a consistent and well paying job that would've allowed him to then buy food for the family, pay off his debt, and overall set a better example for his kids.DEAR ANNIE: I have been married to “Bob” for 11 years. Rex Walls was constantly moving his family around in order to escape paying his dues to the bill collectors. This is a very bad habit to form, learning to run from your problems rather than solve them. If someone is constantly being pressured to meet standards of success, it leads to stress that builds up and results in a lack of confidence in themselves when they don't meet those standards.Įven though I don't disapprove of their parenting style, I do disapprove of the examples they set for their kids because it teaches them that its okay to act however you want in society, you can always just move away. I think that hands-off parenting can lead a kid to be more successful believe it or not. Helicopter parenting causes kids to stress more over how well they are doing in life and sets higher, more unrealistic expectations for what the kids should be able to accomplish. They taught they're kids what the real world was like and by doing that didn't set unrealistic standards of living. It wasn't this common "helicopter parenting" that most parents practice nowadays. The reason I feel the children didn't need to be separated from their parent is that even though it was a different parenting lifestyle, it wasn't pampered. Then he proceeds to remove the rocks and grit from her face with needle nose pliers, and that was the end of that. He returns some time later, picks her up and tells her he's sorry. It hurtled up the road toward me, getting bigger and bigger, until it screeched to a halt right in front of me." "I was scraping the dried blood off my legs when I looked up and saw the Green Caboose come back around the bend. He swings a hard turn, Jeanette flies out, and he keeps going. A great example of his hands-off parenting style is when he loses Jeanette out of the car while driving through the desert. He taught her through experience, not words. A great example of this is when Jeanette was learning to swim: she had walked out to the shallow end of the pool and her dad, not satisfied, jumped in and dragged her out to the deep end. By this I mean he teaches life lessons through direct experiences.
Rex Walls, is more of a hands-on teacher, hands-off parent. She was taught to appreciate all things in life, be it the small things or the large things, like being given Venus for Christmas. I think that even though she was raised differently, it doesn't mean she was raised poorly.
I think that the way Jeanette was raised was very different from the way most people are raised, both then and now. Everybody has different styles of doing things, and that in and of itself is beautiful. I think that they were doing they're best and just lived a different lifestyle than most, and I don't think they should be reprimanded for that. Some people think that Jeanette's parents were monsters, not capable of raising and caring for their kids.
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